{"id":112,"date":"2019-07-20T14:00:38","date_gmt":"2019-07-20T14:00:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/petertest123456.wordpress.com\/?page_id=112"},"modified":"2020-08-03T12:08:41","modified_gmt":"2020-08-03T12:08:41","slug":"stories-2","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/smartreis.com\/reinaldwerrenrath2\/stories-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Stories About My Dad, by Peter"},"content":{"rendered":"
Fathers Are Wonderful!<\/u><\/h5>\n
But my experience is that mine is exceptional, even at age 104 <\/strong>as of this writing. \u00a0I was at a seminar many years ago that I was dragged to by my ex-. \u00a0A psychologist was trying to drum up business by sharing alleged pearls of wisdom. \u00a0She (the psychologist) refrained the old saw about how childhood difficulties with mothers and fathers could mess up kids’ minds, and then asked the group sarcastically, “Raise your hand if you’ve had a perfect childhood.” \u00a0Out of the 40 or so participants, I was the only one that raised my hand.<\/h5>\n
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What does that tell you?<\/h5>\n

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Dad’s Lessons<\/u><\/h5>\n
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    Never walk by a sink full of dirty dishes<\/h5>\n<\/li>\n
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    Always do the right thing, even if no one is looking<\/h5>\n<\/li>\n
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    Never miss an opportunity to do a kind deed<\/h5>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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    Crime & Punishment<\/u><\/h5>\n
    The only time I ever got a spanking was because of my sister.\u00a0 One day when I was probably 4 or 5, we were in the kitchen in Highland Park and I got mad at my big sister.\u00a0 She was probably trying to boss me around, and I wasn’t having any of it.\u00a0 I remember looking up at her (she was a lot taller than I was…9 years apart, don’t forget!), and I inexplicably hit her, probably on her arm.\u00a0 I glanced panic-stricken at my Dad, and saw his expression change from loving father to something resembling a gargoyle, which I had never seen before.\u00a0 Of course, I had never hit my sister before, so that might account for his change in visage.\u00a0 On impulse, I tore out of the kitchen and bounded up the stairs, thinking I could escape retribution.\u00a0 I hadn’t even heard of the word “retribution”, but I was about to know what it meant.\u00a0 As I rounded the landing in the middle of the staircase, my Dad’s shovel-sized hand whacked my behind and propelled me up the second flight of stairs.\u00a0 I hid in my room for several hours.\u00a0 When I sheepishly came downstairs, Dad just looked at me sternly and said: “Never hit a woman.”\u00a0 I learned a great lesson that day.\u00a0 Thank you, Dad.<\/h5>\n

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    Ugly Monkey<\/u><\/h5>\n
    My dad taught me a great lesson once at the zoo.\u00a0 We were at the Lincoln Park Zoo in Chicago, a wonderful place full of old fashioned buildings and old zoo charm.\u00a0 The Lion House.\u00a0 The Bird House.\u00a0 The Snake House.\u00a0 I’m not sure all the animals felt that way.\u00a0 Or PETA.<\/h5>\n
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    We were in the new (at the time) Great Ape House, and I remarked on the appearance of the chimpanzees.\u00a0 I said to my dad, “That monkey is really ugly!”<\/h5>\n
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    Now Dad knew that I knew the difference between monkeys and chimps, but that’s not what he was going to teach me.<\/h5>\n
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    He turned to me with a thoughtful expression on his face and said “Have you ever wondered what you look like to him?”<\/h5>\n
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    That<\/em> was impactful.\u00a0 In three seconds, he changed my whole perspective on life, which lasts to this day.<\/h5>\n
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    Errands<\/u><\/h5>\n
    When I was young, Dad and I used to go to uptown Highland Park and run errands.\u00a0 It was mostly an excuse for him to stop and chat over a cup of coffee with his merchant friends: Powell’s Camera Mart, Ace Hardware…you know, guy stuff.\u00a0 Dad made a point every so often of holding my hand as we walked from store to store.\u00a0 When I was really<\/em> young, that was OK.\u00a0 But I remember thinking one day that I was a big boy.\u00a0 I looked up at him and said “Dad, I don’t need to hold your hand anymore.”<\/h5>\n
    I wish I hadn’t said that.<\/h5>\n
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    Travel<\/u><\/h5>\n
    Dad was a real kidder.\u00a0 We traveled a lot as a family all over the United States.\u00a0 Whenever we got to a restaurant, Dad would take me to the restroom to wash up, etc.\u00a0 As we approached the restroom door, he would invariably say: “Hey, Pete…it says ‘Men’ on the sign, but don’t let that stop you.”\u00a0 He knew I could take it.<\/h5>\n
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    Emails from Dad<\/u><\/h5>\n
    6\/12\/98<\/h5>\n
    Dear Pete:<\/h5>\n
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    If I had life to live over again, the only thing I’d change would be to have more children.<\/h5>\n
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    Dad<\/h5>\n

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    6\/12\/96<\/h5>\n
    Dear Peter:<\/h5>\n
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    The Great Edinburg (pronounced Edinboro) Tatoo – this is the ultimate tatoo, filmed with a lot of imagination.\u00a0 A real treat for those who love and understand bagpipes.<\/h5>\n
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    Dad<\/h5>\n

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    Elevator Speech<\/u><\/h5>\n
    At the end of celebrating Mom’s 102nd birthday in January, 2016, Mom and Dad were in the elevator at the Presbyterian Home.\u00a0 A woman friend leaned over and kissed Mom, saying “Happy Birthday, Betty”.\u00a0 Dad chimed in and said “My birthday is in June.”<\/h5>\n
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    Recognition<\/u><\/h5>\n
    There was a lovely nurse from Ethiopia that Mom & Dad had known for many years working the floor at McGaw.\u00a0 Recently while Dad was there, she came into his room, gave him a cheery “Hello Mr. Werrenrath!”\u00a0 \u00a0She stood in front of his rolling tray table, bent down and looked him straight in the face.\u00a0 Dad looked confused at first, but then a big smile appeared on his face and he pointed at the nurse.\u00a0 He didn’t say it in words, but his gesture said “I recognize you!”\u00a0 It was a precious moment.<\/h5>\n\n\n

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    Fake It Until You\nMake It<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    My dad was making one of his nature films.  We used to wander around the neighborhood and\nmany of the great nature preserves that dot the suburbs north of Chicago.  This one sunny afternoon, Dad was trying to\ncapture a honeybee doing its thing, in and out of the flowers in our front yard\ngarden.  Honeybees are pesky things.  It’s almost as if they have a mind of their\nown.  You see them and hear them, and set\nyour camera on the tripod, adjust the height and just when the light is\nperfect, it flits away.  Damn!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    We spent the greater part of this afternoon trying to get just the\nright shot.  Peonies, tulips,\nhoneysuckle, roses, zinnias…the bees would hover and buzz, squiggle\nseductively into the pistils and stamens, then shudder over to the next flower,\nsniff and ignore, then repeat amongst the botanical beatitude.  Dad kept moving the camera, I would scout the\nflight path, and erringly report the next position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Funny thing about bees: they know you’re there and will take\nappropriate action.  Several times, I\nventured too close to a bee and it buzzed me; came at me right in my face, and\nthe vibration of its wings increased several thousand decibel levels.  I’d back away quickly and generally avoid an\nunfortunate confrontation.  Once, though,\nI put my hand up to fend off the little buzzer, and he got me right in the\npinkie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Ouch!” I screamed, and reached for my hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    My dad said in probably the firmest voice I ever heard,\n“DON’T TOUCH IT!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He reached into his pocket and pulled out his trusty Victorinox\nSwiss Army Knife.  It was red, with a\nhundred big and little gadgets on it.  He\nunfolded the largest blade and pointed it at me.  Buckets of sweat fell from my brow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Open your hand,” he commanded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He proceeded to scrape along my pinky finger with the flat of the\nblade, caught the bee venom sack with the sharp side and out came the stinger,\nvenom and all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He smiled as he looked at me and said, “If you try to pull it\nout, you’ll just squeeze the venom further into your body.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    My finger didn’t hurt too bad. \nIt felt like, well, a bee sting. \nLuckily I didn’t yell “Mom!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Betty!” Dad called out. \n“We need a little first aid here.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    So Mom brought out a bottle of Bactine, a box of Band-Aids and\nsome ice tea.  Mom patched me up and we\nall cooled off in the afternoon sun.  I\nkept my bandaged pinky on the cold glass. \nIt felt a lot better next to Mom’s homemade ice tea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Mom packed up her medical bag and went back toward the house.  “Thanks, Mom!” I said to her\nback.  She turned and smiled at me, and\nwent inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    As Dad and I sat on the hot grass sipping the nectar, Dad looked\ndown at his feet and said, “Was you ever stung by a dead bee?”  Well, actually, Walter Brennan said that in To Have and Have Not<\/em>, with Humphrey\nBogart and Lauren Bacall.  But Dad did\nspot a dead bee in the grass.  I felt\nguilty when I saw it, because it was my job to mow the lawn every week.  Must have clipped that little sucker when he\nwas taking a break on a clover flower. \nOr, it was the one that stung me. \nThey say bees die after they sting something.  Oh well. \nIt was dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    So Dad picked up the dead bee and his eyebrows went up.  He had an idea!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Pete,” he said, “go ask your mother for a needle\nand thread.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I said “OK, Pop!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    As I scampered toward the front door, I looked back at Dad.  He cupped his hands over his mouth and said\n“Hurry, Pete!  We’re losing the\nlight.”  Always the director.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I came out with a needle and black thread.  Looking back on it, black and yellow thread\nwould have been better.  But I’m getting\nahead of myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I handed them to Dad and he said, “Watch this.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He took the needle (which was already threaded, thank heavens…we\nwere losing the light!) and stuck it through the bee’s butt.  With a scowl on his forehead and an intense\nlook of concentration on his face, he passed the slender silver needle through\nthe body and it came out at the bee’s nose. \nI didn’t know bees had noses, but I guess they must; how else do they\nsmell where the flowers are? He then tied a knot at the dangerous end.  His face lit up with glee as he handed the\ncontraption to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Here, Pete,” he said. \n“Are you ready for your close-up?”  Dad loved the movie references.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He picked up his camera and we walked through the yard looking for\nthe best flower in the best of the fading light.  We found a patch of bright yellow snapdragons\nin the front by the driveway, beautifully framed by the low angle sunlight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Perfect!” he exclaimed as he set down his tripod and\nadjusted the camera head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Then he explained what he wanted me to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    First, I carefully pried the mouth of the snapdragon open.  They are cleverly built just for honeybees,\ntheir top and bottom lips coated with dozens of gooey pollen-covered stamens,\nready to rub onto the bees knees as they pass through.  Then I inserted the needle, with the little\ndead buzzer hanging from the end of the thread. \nI pierced the far side of the snapdragon and pricked my finger with the\nneedle as it exited.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I was young then, and didn’t curse.  At least not out loud.  Dad saw me jerk my finger back and said\n“You OK?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Fine, Dad,” I said as I sucked my finger.  “Not too much blood”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Then, I pulled the thread through until the bee sat on the front\nlip of the flower.  The bee looked almost\nreal, if not a bit tired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Roll ’em!” said Dad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I got my hands out of the way, and held the snapdragon stalk from\nthe bottom, out of camera range.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    “Action!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I was my dad’s favorite actor in many of his education films, and\nI always got nervous being on camera.  So\nshaking ever so slightly, I gently pulled the poor honeybee corpse further into\nthe mouth of the snapdragon until it disappeared and snapped shut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And as any good director does, he waited a few seconds for extra\nfootage for the edit, then said “Cut!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It worked!  The final result\nmade it to his next film, and no one complained.  On screen, you can only see the black knot by\nthe bee’s butt if you know it’s there. \nOf course, this was back in the dark ages (1960s) and Yelp had not been\ninvented yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    So we faked it.  So\nwhat?  We got a good lesson recorded and\nhad a fun adventure making it.  We\nprobably should have done a few more takes, but the light had faded and we\npacked it in for the day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I helped Dad carry the photographic gear back inside the\nhouse.  He always got to carry the big camera.  Someday I would.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He looked down at me and said, “How are your fingers?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I held up eight, hiding the two that were injured.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    He laughed and said, “You’ll survive!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Dad was always right.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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